But after this latest "no touch" revelation, Twitter fans are officially hailing Reeves as their "respectful king," a man who is taking the lessons of #MeToo to heart. Many have suggested he can serve as a role model for other men confused about what respect for women's personal space looks like in platonic settings.
Are we sure about that lofty praise? Certainly, Reeves seems like a wonderful guy. But he's also never spoken publicly about the reasons that he chooses not to touch women in pictures. Perhaps he's indeed being respectful of women. Or perhaps he's adopted a "better safe than sorry" attitude, as many men have since the sexual harassment reckoningwhich could cast at least a little doubt on Reeves' altruistic intentions, since this attitude tends to cast men as unwitting, innocent victims to women's irrational, predatory motives.
Of course, being alone with women is different than taking a picture with a fan in a public place. But given the fact that powerful men like Al Franken and Joe Biden have taken hits for unwelcome touching in photographs and public settings, men everywhere are paying attention.
He didn't grow up with privilege and has experienced some serious tragedies. In the late '90s, his longtime girlfriend, Jennifer Syme, gave birth to their stillborn child, and then died two years later in a car accident. His father served some time for drug dealing when Reeves was a kid, and then left their family. Reeves moved all around the world with his mom, from Beirut to Sydney to New York to Toronto.
All of which may be relevant: Certain traumas, and the amount of physical affection we received in early childhood, can go on to affect how comfortable we feel about being touched by others when we grow up.
And thus there are a variety of plausible explanations for Reeves's no-touch policy of picture-taking. Unfortunately, like most of the rest of his life, the true reason may remain a mystery to the rest of us.
What we can pull from the conversation surrounding it, however, is that it's never a bad idea to be mindful of another person's personal space, whether female or male. And that even though we may think of Reeves as our internet boyfriend, if we have the good luck of encountering him out in the wild, it's wise to take a cue from his awareness of boundaries, and give him back what he's dishing out.