Written by Megan Twohey
Last month, Dr. Bertha Mayorquin, a New Jersey physician, told her soon-to-be ex-husband that there was a change in plans. After two weeks of providing treatment by video as a precaution against the coronavirus, she would resume seeing patients in person.
But when she left work on a Friday to pick up her two daughters for the weekend, her husband, Wendell Surdukowski, presented her with a court order granting him sole temporary custody of the young girls. His lawyer had convinced a judge that Mayorquin could expose the children, ages 11 and 8, to COVID-19.
The doctor, an internist, had intended to spend the weekend celebrating her younger daughters birthday. Instead, she spent it frantically assembling 50 pages of paperwork to try to reverse the order.
Many people working in the hospitals doctors, nurses, so many of us are parents, said Mayorquin, whose hospital had asked her to start treating noncoronavirus patients at an urgent care center to ease the burden of the pandemic. Are our children going to be taken away from us because we are on the front lines helping people?
That question is arising across the country as a growing number of parents have begun to withhold access to their children from former spouses or partners over fears of infection, according to families, lawyers and judges. For health care or other essential workers, the battles are infused with heightened controversy. Some say they shouldnt be punished for doing crucial services; their counterparts argue that the jobs pose too great a risk to other family members.
If theres an imminent threat to the kids well-being, you must take action, whether thats something like drug abuse or a virus, Surdukowski said. Watching the news, looking at the cases of doctors being sick, you cannot tell me that they are not at a higher risk. Surdukowski, who has an underlying condition, had told the judge that he was also concerned about his own health.Dr. Bertha Mayorquin in Jersey City, N.J., April 3, 2020. Many people working in the hospitals doctors, nurses, so many of us are parents, said Mayorquin. Are our children going to be taken away from us because we are on the front lines helping people? (Stephen Speranza/The New York Times)
Amid the pandemic, the landscape of family law, which varies across the country, has become more uneven, with few guidelines to address the current safety concerns. Families of medical workers arent the only affected. Other parents are arguing over who comes and goes from each home, whether children should be on the playground and if travel to more remote areas should be permitted.
What we are recommending is to figure out a way for visitation to go forward, and if theres an emergency worker, to figure out how to salvage it as best as you can, said Susan Myres, president of the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers. We cant make those people have to sacrifice more, but how do we do that custody safely?
The court system in New York, the epicenter of the coronavirus outbreak, has not issued any written child custody guidance.
Its not like theres case law or clear guidance, said Conti Moore, a lawyer who works on child custody cases in Florida. This is unprecedented. It all boils down to: How do you co-parent in a pandemic?
When parents do seek help from the courts, they are getting very different responses. Some courts are largely shuttered. Others are holding emergency hearings online. And one jurisdictions definition of emergency may not be anothers.
Last week, Tabatha Sams, a client of Moores who lives in a suburb of Orlando, decided she no longer felt comfortable sharing her 21-month-son with his father, Stephen Thilmony, a firefighter. He sought to assure her that he and his fiance, an emergency room nurse, were taking the proper safety measures, including wearing personal protective equipment while at work. But Sams had watched with growing alarm as COVID-19 cases swept across the country.
Finally, she reached a breaking point. I said, Im not comfortable with the situation, Sams recalled. I cant roll the dice. On her lawyers advice, she filed an emergency motion asking a judge to grant her sole custody for the length of her states shelter-in-place order.
The judge scheduled an online hearing so that both parents could attend and have adequate time to prepare. They will make their arguments Tuesday.
In New Jersey, Surdukowski got an emergency hearing the same day his lawyer filed the motion. It was late on a Friday afternoon, and when Mayorquins lawyer could not be reached by phone, the judge issued the order, granting Surdukowski sole temporary custody.
Distraught at the separation from her daughters, Mayorguin immediately began preparing to get them back. She ticked off the points: She did not intend to treat patients with COVID-19. She would wear personal protective gear and change out of her scrubs and shower immediately when she got home. But, in the end, she felt the safest course was to meet Surdukowskis demand that she not see any patients in person.
The hospital let her retreat to her telemedicine job. As much as Mayorguin regretted not being able to do more at a time of critical need, she said, she felt she had no choice. I didnt want to fight, she said. I just wanted my kids back.
The assurance worked. The next Monday, after an online hearing, the judge reversed the order.
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